面对现实和真实的自己

冬天在交大的课上说起了拥抱现实, 看到下面这断话, 很受鼓励. 认识自己, 拥抱现实都可能是痛苦的, 但可以让我们更积极, 更坚强.
Creating love in your life (bringing awareness, compassion, and loving kindness to yourself, including the parts that you tend to disown or want to keep hidden. This journey of self-knowledge may be uncomfortable, sometimes challenging, but it will help you make friends with all of who you are, so you will be free to welcome another person into your heart.

The freedom of transforming old patterns and the humbling experience of meeting parts of myself that still need compassion and understanding. Seeking a lover or a partner involves a journey that affects all of your life, not just the dating, love, romance, and marriage part. Recognize long-held beliefs that have been shaping much of your behavior; move beyond them with a new awareness that frees you from the past and allows you to see others clearly, so you can create a spiritual union that you can trust.